Just a reminder that we can assert ourselves as women without referring to ourselves as “Boss Babes”. We don’t have to feel pressure to prove our worth by constantly making pretty pink sequined statements. We can just say what it is we want to say.
The value of our words, the importance of our experiences, the measure of our power need never be reduced by, or confined to, the phrases or the typeface that we are told have been reserved especially for us.
We can reject the labels we don’t require. We don’t have to apologize for existing, for taking up space, for daring to demand a different outcome. We are allowed to run our own businesses and we don’t have to adhere to a certain dress code or wear make up in order to be taken seriously, or to be afforded personal or professional respect.
Our bodies belong to us and we do not have to justify the choices we make for ourselves, for our health, our reproductive rights, or our sanity to anybody else. Online or offline.
We are not obliged to be polite to people who make us feel uncomfortable, despite the conditioning we have received about how “nice” girls behave. We do not need to say thank you when we receive comments about our appearance that are uninvited or unwelcome.
We do not need to pick up any more weight than we are already carrying. We are allowed to ask for time, or space, or support when we need it, and not feel as though somehow we are failing because we can’t juggle all the things, all the time.
We do not have to adopt or accept the versions of success that we continually have rammed down our throats courtesy of people who do not look like us, or live like us, or remotely resemble us.
We are not defined by the people who do not love us, refuse to see us, or are unable to hold space for us.
Please, please, please keep creating a World in which you see yourself as valuable. Because that’s what I’m doing over here. Daily. And I know sometimes it feels like a very small crawl on a very long path, but do it anyway. And keep doing it until you are certain of how much the World needs you. Trust me, you find some incredible people along the way.
I am a writer who helps women find their courage through creativity. I am driven by a deep desire to see women claim and keep spaces which support and sustain their entire body and their whole being. To support my work, please visit my Patreon page.