Category: Life Lessons

Words of wisdom and tales of truth.

15 Things I Have Learned (or Remembered) in the Last 48 Hours

1.  Grief reveals us. It strips the skin from us and shows us who we are without the day to day adornments that we layer up with. It also shows…

The Highlight Reel: Why We Believe in the Dream Lives of Others

A few years ago, my then-partner came home one day to tell me that two of our friends, a couple who seemingly had everything together, had split up. I remember…

Is it Useful, Beautiful or Joyful?

Some years ago I read a quote from Regina Brett: “Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful”. The words formed part of a list of life lessons…

You Are Everything You Need to Remember

I was six years old when I learned that I could escape into stories and immerse myself in a make-believe world which existed within bound pages of print. I was…

What I Discovered About Myself in the Eyes of Strangers

When was the last time that you felt truly held? When did you last feel like you could unfurl and unravel amongst the safety of strangers? I'm not sure that…

Lessons Learned from an Ancient Spirit in a Modern World

My mind cannot recall the memories. But my skin does. My body holds each experience like collected treasures from so many lifetimes ago. The lines and crevices in my hands…

A Story of Self Acceptance (Notes from a Woman Who Made Her Own Rules)

  “It is not the critic who counts”. How many times have I read those words from Theodore Roosevelt? How many times have I repeated them? And yet, recently I’d…

Look for the Lighthouses in Your Life

There is something about lighthouses that soothes me. They offer guidance and safety. They signal hope and home. And so often recently, I keep thinking that's all we are trying…

Permission to Stop, Drop and Fall Apart

There is something surprisingly undramatic about the moments in which we realize we are going to let go. The moments in which we say, No to the places, people or pastimes that…

4am and Other Reluctant Friendships

4am is my newly found acquaintance. One that I was never interested in making. She's as punctual as they come. Every morning, right on time. And even though I've assured…

Let the Moments Seize You

"You know how everyone's always saying seize the moment? I don't know, I'm kinda thinking it's the other way around. You know, like the moment seizes us." That's one of…

It Is Not the Storm That Slays Me

I saw you today. The dark clouds gave way to thunder and when the lightning chaser sparked up the sky, I saw your silhouette. I'm not sure how many days…

Meditations for the Mind That Won’t Shut Up 

I remember being in India five years ago. I was traveling from place to place and volunteering as I went but I was also exploring my own spiritual journey. More…

Do Not Dilute Your Joy

A while back I read a post written by a woman who was sharing her happiness at her one year anniversary with her husband.  Amongst the congratulatory comments, someone had…

Our Symphony Has Stopped. A Letter to My Lost Love

Here I am, on the other side of everything we fought to get through. And here you aren't. Our love has sat on a dusty shelf for thousands of hours…

Girl, It’s OK If Your Balls Drop

My balls dropped this week. I kid you not. The juggling act that I'd been congratulating myself on perfecting, suddenly turned into a bad sidewalk show. You know this act…

The Burn of the Creative Torch: Notes from a Fired Up Writer

I got all fired up this week. Maybe there was some full moon crazy going on, maybe my inner Leo needed to do some roaring or perhaps my heart just…

Dear Stomach Hanging Over My Jeans: You Are Awesome

In 2009 my body was a bit of a mess. I’d had an acute attack of pancreatitis which had left me hospitalised and drained and hot on the heels of…

Finding My Tribe, And Coming Home to Myself

Birth to 38. I was on the outside. Looking in. My face pressed up against the glass. My fingers leaving telltale smudges that spoke of longing. Of wanting to be…

Shine Your Own Light and Let Go of Envy

“As we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence actually liberates others.” ~Marianne…

How to Reclaim Your Power and Step Into the New Year Like a Boss

A calendar year ending is often a time of reflection and resolve. Assessing what didn't work out and feeling proud of what did. Getting inspired about new adventures and setting…

Forever Friendships: These Too Shall Pass

There is nothing quite like the feeling we get when we stumble across someone who gets our weirdness and craziness and doesn't judge our crankiness. They understand our dreams and…

Between Now and Next

I'm between now and next.  I haven't arrived at my new destination but I've already departed my last location. I've made the jump but I haven't quite landed. I'm suspended…

Who Cares What They Think? (Why You Don’t Need to Fit In)

When was the last time you felt as though you didn’t fit in? As though you were on the outside looking in at everyone else? Maybe it was when you…

The Words I Wish I’d Known Then (a Letter to the Child I Once Was)

These are the words I wish I’d had whispered to me, many moons ago. When I saw a stray dog on the street that I went home and cried for.…

Why I’m Saying No to Worry (and Hell Yes to Freedom and Cellulite)

If you totalled up the time that you’ve spent worrying about things in your lifetime, how much time do you think that might amount to? How many hours spent stressing…

10 Ways That Wild Hearts Live Free

Each day and every night there are souls that brim with beauty under the light of the sun, moon and stars. They hear the earth call for their contribution and…

Lest We Forget: Living With Alzheimer’s

What would you tell the world whilst you can still remember? What gifts would you give? Most of us can't begin to imagine a time when our minds might betray…

Bulimia Is a Bitch: Losing Control and Finding Freedom

  I remember an ex-boyfriend once saying to me that eating disorders were born of vanity. He believed that it was the desire to look good that drove image obsessed…

What I Know at 40 That I’d Tell Myself at 20

Picture yourself in your mind's eye twenty years ago. Who do you see? What shaped your world at that time? If you could go back to that instant, what would…

Are You Hiding From Life? (Notes from an Introvert)

I hang out in coffee shops. A lot. A cliché of the biggest kind as a writer, but a fact nonetheless. I’m also an introvert (cliché number two) and if…

Which Way Is Next?

"What do you want to be when you grow up?” I can’t remember the age I was when I was first asked that question but I’m fairly certain that my…